If you have been alone/single for a while, you might find it a little difficult to function properly once you get into a relationship. Although there is the constant longing to share your life with someone, a single minded person has many obstacles to overcome before they can truly mesh with someone. Sometimes those obstacles can make you stand back and wonder what you were hoping for in the first place?
I look at myself for example; I’d been single long enough to know that I don’t want or need any extra baggage in my life. I do want to be loved and be in love but, there are simply some things that I am not willing to compromise on in order to have it. I honestly and whole heartedly believe that I would rather stay single for the rest of my life and invest in a footlocker’s supply of batteries to accompany some really expensive adult toys, rather than sacrifice my soul for any man.
Yes it’s true that I’ve been around the block more than a few times. After all that running around my body is tired and my heart is weary. I’m not crazy though. I would never ask my man to do or give anything that I wasn’t willing to comply with in return. There has to be a balance somewhere.
It’s hard to be in a relationship and not still be self relevant. I mean obviously you love and care for your mate. It’s just that somewhere in the back of your mind you still feel like you have to look out for yourself and protect your own interests. Let’s be honest; no one wants to get played. If you feel like you’re doing the most when your partner is doing the least, there is definitely a problem.
Real love is worth fighting for and even about. If you are quick to throw in the towel as soon as a storm comes along, you might as well take my advice about the battery operated toys. Good relationships lead you on an interesting journey. Not only do you find out about your significant other but, you also discover yourself. The day that you can start thinking less about you and more about him is the same day that two becomes one. I would love to see that day in my life. I believe we can get there, together.
· Remember, I am a work in progress…what’s your excuse?
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